External and internal Conflicts in Marriage


Every marriage has to face conflicts. Conflicts may arise from the outside when we allow external intruders to interfere with our marriage or from the inside. The difference between a good and a bad marriage is not, whether conflicts are present, but how we proceed to resolve them. But first, let's look at  various sources of external and internal conflicts. Thereafter, in our subsequent articles, we shall proceed to how each conflicts can be resolved.

The root cause of conflicts in marriage: External
  1. Work.
  2. Children.
  3. Affairs.
  4.  In-laws.
  5. Friends.
  6. Television.
  7.  Internet (social media).
  8. Addictions.
Most of these aren’t bad in themselves, but they can be destructive for a relationship, when they come between a couple’s love.

The root cause of conflicts in marriages: Internal
They range from simple disagreements about unimportant things to serious problems that are caused by sinful behavior of one spouse. Common examples are:
  1.  Sin of one spouse.
  2.  Immaturity.
  3.  Hurt feelings that are no one’s fault.
  4.  Conflicting desires.
  5.  Individual desires versus the needs of the relationship.
  6. Hidden faults.
The rules for dealing with such conflicts depend on the nature of the conflict. They don’t wait for invitation to intrude into our marriage_they show up by themselves. If we want to prevent that from happening, we must become active and protect our marriage. We have to recognize the dangers and put up well balanced measures. We need to learn to say no to them, before they become so strong, that we can’t seem to fend them off anymore. This doesn’t come for free_it will cost us a lot. However, if we invest into our marriage and spend time, effort, and sacrifice in protecting our marriage from such influences, the chances for having a rock solid marriage are quite high.


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