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5 major issues that promote intruders in marriages

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Most often, intruders do not show up unexpectedly. They are a sign of some deeper issues in the marriage. They are the fruit, not the cause of the problem. For instance, extra-marital affairs in most couples don’t simply happen to a marriage that was healthy until “the other” showed up. When a marriage contains conflict, we tend to busy ourselves in other people and activities, because that is less painful than facing some seemingly unsolvable problem at home day after day. Below are some of the major issues that promote intruders in marriages.  A natural consequence of intimacy The very nature of emotional intimacy can become one of the reasons for vulnerability to outside intruders. Intimacy means that you get to know your spouse as he really is, with all his strengths and weaknesses, positive characteristics and faults, sins, and imperfections.When you discover them, you will face a new kind of challenge: you have to accept yourself and your spouse as both of you are r...

Top 4 benefits of sweet potato leaves Revealed

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Sweet potato leaves provide a dietary source of vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, dietary fiber, and essential fatty acids. Bioactive compounds contained in this vegetable play a role in health promotion by Promoting healthy gut, regulating blood glucose levels, maintaining heart health, and reducing inflammation. Prepare sweet potato leaves by boiling, steaming or stir-frying to preserve nutrients. Currently, sweet potato leaves are consumed primarily in the islands of the Pacific Ocean and in Asian and African countries; limited consumption occurs in the United States. Now, let us take a look at the top 4 benefits of its consuption. Promote a healthy gut The significant amount of dietary fiber, especially when eaten with the skin, helps to promote a healthy digestive tract, relieving constipation and also helps prevent colon cancer. Making a drink of the Sweet Potato Leaves really works wonders for GI distress. Regulates blood glucose levels The leaves of sweet potato are...

Top 6 Health benefits of almonds revealed

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The almond is a popular tree nut that is loaded with important nutrients. It is a species of tree native to the Middle East, the Indian subcontinent and North Africa. The health benefits of almonds are extensive, and they are frequently used as a healthy solution for relief from constipation, boosts immune system, good for pregnancy, weight control, Bone health, and great for hair. Below are some of the top 6 health benefits of almonds. Boosts immunity Almonds help maintain the level of alkalinity in the body that benefits the immune system. It boosts the immunity fending off various diseases and adverse health conditions. Constipation The fiber in the almonds helps in preventing the constipation. However it is suggested to drink water when eating almonds as it help in speeding the digestive process. You don’t need to consume almonds in excess amount only 4-5 almonds are enough to keep the bowel movement regular. Good for pregnancy   Almonds are rich in folic acid whic...

How healthy couples deal with Immaturity

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All of us fall short of the demands of life in some or the other way. This is quite normal and in most marriages both spouses have found ways for dealing with the shortcomings of their partners. However,  the situation is more difficult, if one spouse seems to be unable to deal with a normal daily load and the other has a hard time accepting his/her weakness. For instance, husband may have trouble controlling his spending habits and thus ruins his wife’s attempts to manage the tight family budget. These are difficult situations ! Below are the simple suggestions that we can follow in such a difficult situations. 1). Accept reality Both of you have promised to unconditionally accept your spouse no matter what life will bring. And soon, you will discover, that both you and your mate have certain weaknesses.Accepting reality helps focusing on a solution instead of the problem. 2). Communicate your support to your spouse Growing out of immaturities is difficult if we ha...

How healthy Couples identify causes of Affairs

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Affairs are probably the most hurtful intruder for a marriage and have led to the death of many a struggling relationship. What should a couple do if the mutual trust has been broken by an affair.Should she kick him out of the house for that? Should he divorce his sinful wife? An affair, like any other intruder, is only a symptom of deeper, probably quite severe problems in the marriage. However, if your spouse is truly repentant, willing to give up the affair, and desires to do everything to repair the broken trust, you should be compassionate and forgiving and begin to work together on the real problems that have led to this situation. Below are some of the causes of affairs: 1). Emptiness in the marriage Some spouses have lost the connection to their partner, desperately seek for someone to connect to, and fall for the first person that seems to offer what they miss in their marriage. 2). Narcissistic tendencies Some people consider themselves as so perfect that they exp...

Top 5 ways you can encourage your partner to communicate more openly revealed

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To encourage open communication, each person must first accept responsibility for his/her own feelings. It is important to be honest, as honesty is at the heart of good communication. Be aware of the following: The only thing we have total control over is our own thoughts, attitudes and actions. Set aside time for both of you to talk, as talking about what is happening and how it affects you is the first step. Try to tell your partner exactly what you are feeling and thinking, even if it might upset him or her. State what you want and be prepared to negotiate. Don’t forget, change can be painful and scary, so let your partner know that you understand this. Listen to your partner, put aside your own thoughts for the time being, and try to understand his or her intentions, needs and wants.

Keeping anger under your control

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Anger can always be kept under control; at least one can mitigate its severity by applying the following methods: Try to understand the feelings under your anger Anger often covers up other feelings such as embarrassment, insecurity, shame or guilt. In order to control your anger, you need to realize what your real feelings are. Managing cues and triggers Anger fuels the “fight or flight” defense mechanism of the body. Even if you might feel that you just get angry without warning, your body starts sending you physical signals much before that. Identifying Anger Buttons Clenching hands or jaw. Flushing of face. Breathing heavier. Pacing around. Pounding heart. Learn ways to cool down You can deal with your anger quicker if you know how to recognize the cues, before it gets out of control. Quick tips for cooling down Breathing Taking deep breaths from the abdomen to draw fresh air into lungs. Exercising It releases the brooding negative energy that you carry...