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How healthy couples handle individual desire and relationship needs

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Sometimes in a relationship, one partner has desires that conflict with the needs of the relationship itself. You may want to go back to school to get a higher degree and improve your career chances, but the family may need the time and money. Maybe a new job opportunity may open up but accepting it would require your family to relocate and create a lot of disruption. Still, you may want to look for a less strenuous job but that would reduce the family income.So what should we do? Here are some practical hints for dealing with desires that conflict with the needs of the relationship. 1). Remember that marriage comes first Giving into the relationship is more important than your individual desires.Remember, marriage means giving up some of your individual rights for the sake of the relationship. 2). Pray for guidance In areas where it is difficult to make a decision, remember that God gives wisdom generously to those who ask Him. 3) . Be excited about what your spouse wa...

Why we cannot sneeze with our eyes open

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To discover the reason behind why we often close our eyes when we sneeze has been the core of expert's biggest mysteries but, not anymore. Sneeze is triggered by the irritation of membranes in the nose because of pollen particles. So when this particle has irritated our membrane, a signals gets sent to the brain by the trigeminal nerve, which then triggers lots of other reactions like the chest expanding, the lungs filling up with air and finally we sneezing everywhere. According to experts, a person sneezes around 5,000 droplets of mucus as well as air at the speed of 160kph. The reasons that have been cited to cause the closing of the eyes while sneezing are; Response of eyes to the reaction. A reflex action just like when the leg jerks slightly at a top on the respective knee. To save the eyes from getting in contact with the germ droplets. Tightening of the eyes muscles as part of those muscles that tighten when there is an involuntary response. We hope you fo...

We are all familiar with our friends, they can also become an intruders

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Good friends are a treasure in any marriage. They can help the couple to look beyond the horizon of the immediate relationship and may meet some needs of each individual that the spouse cannot meet. However, quite often a couple feels that friends have come between them.As before, the underlying issues have to do mostly with the couple and not with the friends themselves. 1). Hurt in the marriage Sometimes, of course, a partner may have experienced rejection and deep hurt from his spouse, for instance by being constantly criticized for weaknesses, anger or needs. So friends become the place where he can open up. In this case, the other spouse needs to work on accepting all of her partner and on developing an attitude of compassion and forgiveness when she has to rebuke him for some real sin. 2). Sharing secrets with friends Sometimes, one partner has secret conversations with friends about issues that his spouse knows nothing about. This does not only hurt his spouse but ...